Tuesday, April 17, 2012

A fool,perhaps?

Once upon a time, there was this foolish traveller, who'd gone on a journey, why was he foolish, well because he was fooled by everyone he met. “Please some money for medicine” said an old lady, and he gave money to her. Everywhere he went people made up all kinds of sad stories to tell him, and the traveller fell for every one of them, “I have a sick younger sister” a little girl said to him, “I don’t have money to buy seeds to plant in my fields” a man said to him, and he gave to them each something of his. Pretty soon his money, his clothes, even his shoes had been cheated away from him, but the foolish traveller was always glad to help, and he always told people the same thing, he said, “I wish you happiness”. But by this point though, the traveller was completely naked, and with nothing left to cover himself, he decided to leave the main road and travel through the dense forest, where no one could see him. But soon he was discovered by the goblins that lived in the woods. The goblins wanted to eat the traveller’s body, so they begged, and they pleaded, and they used kind words to try and trick him, of course, the traveller was fooled, first he let the goblins eat one of his legs, then an arm, then more and more, before it was over, all the traveller had left was his head. He’d even given his eyes away to the last of the goblins, and as that last goblin was eating the traveller’s eyes, he turned and said “Thank you traveller, in return I leave you this present”, what the goblin left was a slip of paper with the word "fool" written on it. The traveller couldn’t see it, he didn’t know what it was, even so, tears began to float of his face. “Thank you” he said, “This is the first present anyone’s ever given me, I’m so happy, I’m so happy thankyou”. Even without his eyes, he cried and he cried great tears of joy. Then the traveller died… the smile is still on his face.

…I feel so sorry for him, see… lost, hardship, things like that, you can’t really focus on them. The traveller didn’t, he never thought about his own troubles at all, I imagine that it probably does sound foolish to some people, but not to me. I don’t think he’s foolish at all, even though other people would probably think he was being tricked, I don’t think he was, I think he did exactly what he wanted to do… I think more than anything he just wanted to make other people happy.

Quoted from fruits baskets

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Superficial Happiness

Someone once said that I could do anything and be good at it which is 70% true.

I could take arts(anyting that doe not have drawings in it), live life easy, have a Phd before 30, get a hot car, get a nice house and have plenty of money to throw at ppl to get laid or maybe hook a young boy and let him be addicted to me and change that guy every year or 2 or whenever I bored.

And of cos, pretend that I am happy with everything that I do. Superficial happiness is so much easy to find than true happiness.

The reason of not doing the above is simple, living a fake life is not my cuppa. Only in this aspect of life, I am cruel to myself. I want sumting that is sustainable, sumting that is forever not sumting that is temporary. Making riches/vanity a key point of my life is dumb.

In the end of day, I want to be happy with my life, not to compete with others who may have a better car, a bigger house or cute bf. I want to be happy with what treasures I have; my frens, my books and my mate.

I do not want to be those poor souls in our world, who preaches koans, verses day and night, night and day but secretly have tongues like serpents.

I want to be me, the most unique person in the universe, who cries watching sapping movies, who head bangs with metallica and the sort, who enjoys the company of others, who is noisy and quiet at the same time.

Wanting to have this type of life is not easy, there are times that I feel like shutting everything and throw money at those boys, just to get some feel good time. But at the every last min, the rotten brat that we call Conscience (truly I hate that voice) will press the stop button.

Work is work, play is play, in the end, I would like to have someone who will be there when I get home.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

How to be a good Counselor

Its funny that most people that I know are some what competent in Psychology,even the worse of them know the basis of being a good counselor. I strongly advice those who are in education, to take a course in psychology as it may be beneficial to them and will of cos teach them on how to present the lessons in a good way.

So how to be a good counselor? The most important rule is not to pass judgement on the case until u hear the prob out.

1stly, encourage ur subject to speak out his prob without u putting ideas/influencing him to deviate from his core probs. Although, u can halt his laments by changing the topic while u process his words. Most importantly, u must know which part of the conversation is true and which is extra. he might put in some lies to make his story interesting.

2nd, no judgement must be passed so avoid using absolute words like must. Its better to use may or could while advising.

3rd, do not use high/harsh tones to indicate that he is wasting ur time. He comes to u with a hope that u may show him the right of doing things,if he doesn't feel that ur helping him but dictating, he may be reluctant to talk to u in future.

4th, advise him properly, do not turn the prob back to him.

Life of a counselor is not easy, u have so many stress factors to deal with. No matter how tired or busy u are, the subject's well being is vital. Make him feel comfortable talking to u. Remember that u are a fren to him not a JUDGE.

Friday, April 6, 2012


Those who have worked/working in labs hates this useful chemical. This compound is used for embalming or fixing tissues for H & E purposes.

Basically, it is an organic compound from the Aldehyde family, its systematic name is Methanal.

Formaldehyde preserves or fixes tissue or cells by cross-linking of primary amino groups in proteins with other nearby nitrogen atoms in protein or DNA through a -CH2- linkage.A solution of 4% formaldehyde fixes pathology tissue specimens at about one mm per hour at room temperature.

Formaldehyde solutions are used as a fixative for microscopy and histology, although the percentage formaldehyde used may vary based on the method of analysis. Additionally, the methanol used to stabilize formaldehyde may interfere with the ability to properly fix tissue or cells and therefore commercial formaldehyde preparations are available that are packaged in glass ampules under an inert gas to prevent the use of contaminating methanol for stabilization. Although formaldehyde solutions are commonly used as a biological preserving medium, usually for smaller specimens, it usually just prolongs the decaying process.

Several European countries restrict the use of formaldehyde, including the import of formaldehyde-treated products and embalming. Starting September 2007, the European Union banned the use of formaldehyde due to its carcinogenic properties as a biocide (including embalming) under the Biocidal Products Directive (98/8/EC).Countries with a strong tradition of embalming corpses, such as Ireland and other colder-weather countries, have raised concerns. Despite reports to the contrary,no decision on the inclusion of formaldehyde on Annex I of the Biocidal Products Directive for product-type 22 (embalming and taxidermist fluids) had been made as of September 2009.

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Why u no?

Was watching Love and other Drugs which Anne Hathaway and Jake Gyllenhaal starred in. The short story is Anne plays a woman with Parkinson's (stage 1) while Jake sells viagra and is getting promoted to HQ of Pfizer. He gave all up for Anne. Kinda nice,rite?

Which brings to my story, every now and then, someone would complain that their partners are not giving enuff of sex, attention, no good in bed and so on. Big deal, I say since I am still single(Life is no fair).

Before u wanna complain, pls do think.. who gives u a hug when ur were down, who sends u cheer up smses when u have no mood, who lets u cuddle with when u have a shitty day,who tries to make u smile when the boss is eating ur ass, who cries with u, who stands up for u when ur family do not treat u well..... of cos the list goes on and on...

But seriously, he may not be the perfect guy but he tries to be, no matter how tired he is, ur well being is his 1st priority.

So pls do not complain when he has no mood to fuck u..he may have sumting else in plan.