Saturday, July 24, 2010

Mono or poly

A few months ago,a fren in facebook said that he will tell all of his secrets to his future lover which is good but how about during the relationship period,should u tell everything to the lover or shuld u keep some things private.

A episode of the latest season of House deals with open marriage aka open relationship. It means that u can have an affair with someone while ur in love and the best part is the lover knows about it. It is the opposite of having a mistress.

But seriously,how many of us would like to know whether the lover is faithful or anot,whether he had sexs with sumone while we are busy with other things or an innocent fling with someone while he is on a working trip overseas?

We are so obsess with being mono till we frown at swingers.A couple who practices polygamy once said to me," there is no monogamous gay couple that had not fantasized about a person who is not their lover and tried to imagine that person is who he is fucking while fucking his lover. We are just being honest to each other."

The statement given is true in a sense. I mean I am sure that some might have imagined that their lover is someone else while fucking them. I,myself had done that once or twice.

Do monogamy exist in the gay world or we are just being hypocrites?

Ps: Fyi: I am not thinking of being polygamous nor having an affair.

4 comments:

kidz said...

Its a matter of choice, acceptance, personal preference. But it is a distorted idea if u ask me... i mean how do u share a lover? it is already hard to find someone whom u love and loves u in return, 3 person mutually loving? what r the odds? it might happen but most of the time seems more like just for lust...

and those ppl makes the entire gay rs feels like what Samantha says, its like musical chair game, they r the only one left.. so they stick together no matter what.. Pathetic..

William said...

Thinking it and doing it-- that is the difference.

ichimaru akira said...

Kidz: true but still.........

Will: Lol.. besides that?

Unknown said...

i think that is more than fantasy. i sometimes imagine brad pitt penetrate my ass. or 20 years ago leonardo de carprio. or any hot dudes. but those arent love.




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