On Maintenance

Even after all this time

The sun never says to the earth, "You owe me."
Look what happens with a Love like that!
—It lights the whole Sky. (Hafiz)

How do u maintain a relationship,it be love or bros or friends?For me,the best way to maintain a relationship is thru communication,tolerance and reminders

Let it be lovers,bros or frens,communication is important. You have make sure that the msg is sent clearly and the receiving party gets it. Its quite worthless to sulk or start a cold war,just becos ur unhappy with the way he folds the napkin. Fights don't actually kill a relationship,it lets you know how strong it is.You can't really sweep displeasures under the carpet. But don't fight over petty stuff like the proper way to fold a napkin or who's suppose to throw the rubbish or whose turn to pay the tab.

Its also important to have tolerance in the relationship. For example,ur partner loves smoking but you being a health freak can't stand it and gave him a ultimatum which is either he chooses ciggarettes or u. He would chose u of cos but still smoke behind ur back which in the end makes the ultimatum kinda useless. I would be contented if he tries to reduce the number of sticks per day,rather than forcing him to go cold turkey.

Lastly reminders,there are ppl who tink that anniversaries or even saying "I love you" is overated but actually when you remind them of your love,it will make them feel appreciated and sumtimes let u off with a warning although you did break their favourite china or misfeed their pets with the wrong meds.

The most important thing is that the both of u want to make the relationship work.Its kinda pointless to be only one that gives a thought on maintaining a relationship while the other party takes it for granted.